G3S3B wrote:

I hope this banner is not overly provocative.

Because some things never change.

JLS banned me for posting the animated gif of that pic


Jerry Lewis receiving a price in USA

Fuck france Imbeciles, the lot of 'em!

This is what FF means to me.

When will FilthPigo learn that a "logo" is not meant to take a 1/4 or 1/3 of the screen ?

here's another.

Outstanding work gentlemen.

"trangender", Carambar? Don't bother correcting it, it wasn't funny anyway.

TheCaledonian wrote:

"trangender", Carambar? Don't bother correcting it, it wasn't funny anyway.

I don't understand. What's the problem with the term "Transgender". It exists in English. And does apply in english

Malbarre is the member of the year!


yeahhh

Fredmasse wrote:

Malbarre is the member of the year!


yeahhh

beep beep!

TheMadPoet wrote:

Morgan, you are an artist, however, I am not putting up anything with french on it, this is "Fuckfrance" not "Learnfrench", also, I'm not going to flame a specific person on the banner---however, if you wanted a put a dog lifting it's leg on a collective group of frog's heads, that I would probably work with.

Since when has this morphed into your site, you kiddy fiddling fuck? Look up the definition of "moderator" or just shoot yourself and make everybody happy.

bratwurst1978 wrote:

Look up the definition of "moderator" or just shoot yourself and make everybody happy.

The limits of my moderation are set by Shon, and that is who defines it.

Fredmasse wrote:

Malbarre is the MEMBER of the year!


yeahhh

you said it!

It's the "Learn to pull the trigger on your snubby" site...

Or, "Fuck 'em 'till they're done"

The satanic site failed.


So, why not turn FF into a personal website?


Karma.


Karma for everyone.

That would be a blog.

That takes at least three fingers, clipped.

MAIL ORDER BRIDES


Back in 1999, Channel Nine commentator Tony Greig sparked an outcry when he intimated during a television broadcast that a woman was a "mail-order bride" because she was of Asian appearance and the groom Caucasian.

During a cricket match at North Sydney Oval, the camera zoomed onto a couple in a marriage ceremony at a nearby church, whereupon Greig made an off-camera remark that was picked up by his microphone.

"Do you think she's been flown in?" said Greig, the implication being that because a white man was marrying an Asian woman, he'd picked her out of a catalogue.

Ten years on, the phenomenon of the "mail-order bride" has been transformed by the internet and grown to include tens of thousands of women from Eastern Europe, as well as many third-world countries, where it's safe to assume inhabitants are looking for a better life in the west ... but is this the whole truth? ...

Historically, mail-order brides were women from countries like China, Thailand and Venezuela, who listed themselves in catalogues and were selected for marriage by western men.

It is this commodification of the female sex that is at the core of many people's poor image of correspondence marriage and one that rankles many couples involved in this type of courtship.

In a 1988 article, 'American Catalogues of Asian Brides', Ara Wilson, an associate professor of women's studies at Duke University, notes that the catalogues "encourage a voyeuristic objectification of Oriental women as 'other'" in contrast to the liberated atttitudes of western women.

In another study, Rona T. Halualani, associate professor of communication studies at San José State University, goes further, claiming the catalogues create a "collage of economic, sexual, and racial hegemonic discourses that celebrate dominant, Anglo, patriarchal, capitalist ideology by fashioning an ideal product - the colonised Filipina 'Oriental Butterfly' doll."

What these scholarly and, no doubt, considered views fail to take into account is the actual views of the women and men involved, as both are based primarily on studies of the old-fashioned, hard-copy catalogues alone.

Nicole Constable's 2003 book Romance on a Global Stage: Pen Pals, Virtual Ethnography, and "Mail-Order" Marriages takes a deeper look at the phenomenon and, most importantly, includes dozens of interviews with both "mail-order" brides and their husbands.

"When I began this project, I was not fully aware of the problems inherent in the terms 'mail-order brides' or 'mail-order marriages,' and I was unaware that many people who are - or whose marriages are - labeled as such take offense at the terms (often for good reason)," writes Constable.

Two of the main themes Constable grapples with are also at the root of society's first-blanch judgment towards correspondence marriages: that "mail-order brides" are held to "be a singularly oppressed category of victimized women who are 'trafficked' and in need of rescue" and that the men who seek them are desirous of an obsequious antithesis to the western feminist woman.

"Men and their perspectives, I learned, are - like the women - often misunderstood or glossed in stark and stereotypical terms. Men are depicted, for example, as 'buying' brides, as wanting women they can control and exert power over; they are said to want women who are subservient, submissive combinations of sex slave and domestic servant," writes Constable.

Though she admits to meeting many unlikable men in her research who fit the above mentioned mold, Constable says: "I came to see the men involved in correspondence relationships as a very diverse group of people; many are decent and well-intentioned human beings who have learned a great deal in the process of their relationships."

She also challenges the caricature of the "mail-order bride" as a docile victim, arguing that this characterisation, "reproduced in feminist writing and the media, may inadvertently perpetuate the very images that appeal to men who are more inclined to control or abuse women."

"If images of Asian women as active agents who will not submit to or tolerate violence were more prevalent, perhaps men who aim to control or abuse women might not so readily look to Asia for spouses," writes Constable.

"As one man told me, 'If other Chinese women are anything like my wife, some of these men who expect Chinese women to be meek and obedient are in for a very rude awakening!'"

No doubt the clichés we hear about "mail-order marriages" have some basis in truth, but I'd be interested to hear from any of you who have gone down this path to romance, the reasons you chose it and what prejudices you've encountered.

The image of the older male loser looking for love has to be just as galling to men as that of the victimised sex slave or gold-digging freeloader looking for an Aussie passport is to women.

In any case it would seem both wear the judgment - his and her motivations can never be pure - which is kind of funny considering how prevalent and accepted other forms of internet courting are nowadays.

Interestingly, the United States Citizenship and Immigration Services reports that "... marriages arranged through these services would appear to have a lower divorce rate than the nation as a whole, fully 80 percent of these marriages having lasted over the years for which reports are available."

If you'd like to email me with a topic suggestion or just vent, try here. I now have too many unanswered emails to catch up on, so I'm instituting a no-reply policy. In advance, I thank you for your email.

Hey! The wife's courtship lasted two weeks, 40 years ago!
(No mail order, tho')

Don't forget,we don't know where she's been.

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